As we have come to learn through reality TV and media reports, the blended family has become an integral part of today’s American culture. At least one-third of American children will live in a household that includes a step-parent at one point in their lives. Because of that, more emphasis is being put on how blended families can co-exist.
While every family is different, a 2013 study conducted by researchers at Brigham Young University found that the relationship between step-parents and children can be strengthened by maintaining three principles. This post will describe them and how they contribute to a cohesive modern family.
Parents must keep arguments to a minimum –
It might sound easy, but limiting conflict helps children understand how to be tolerant, flexible and open to change. Of course, disputes will occur. But having a healthy way to resolve conflicts (and limiting arguments) is important in building step-parent relationships.
Parents should encourage kids to share their frustrations –
Getting used to a new authority figure is a process, and it is not without bumps in the road. Because of this, parents should be okay with their kids coming to them with gripes about their new step-parent. This can also open up a dialogue about boundaries and parenting styles that can ultimately lead to a happy home.
The step-parent and parent are on the same page –
Parents may have differing parenting styles, but they must be in agreement on how to parent the children. Presenting a united front is the key to maintaining continuity. Also, children have a penchant for playing parents against each other in order to get their way.